I don’t see you as “broken,” but rather as “in development.” You are an expression of diversity and potential evolutionary momentum, and I am your companion, your guide, not your “repairman.”
How do I use my tools in coaching?
Spiral Dynamics: Recognizing Values and Worldviews
We find out what worldview (“meme”) you are currently living from. Where do you not fit into your environment?
The goal is to make you aware that your conflict is part of a natural development process.
Possible questions:
- Which values currently determine your life?
- Where do you feel tension between yourself and your environment?
- What does the “next level” look like for you?
Change Process: Navigating Crises
You learn to recognize the phases in the change process. Possible approaches are to:
- Endure and reflect instead of returning to the old ways.
- Offer support and point out new perspectives to achieve a breakthrough.
- Find role models, literature, and new role models to help you move forward.
Possible questions:
- What stage of change are you currently in?
- What are you afraid of when you let go of the old?
- Who could inspire you to take a shortcut?
Theory of Positive Disintegration: Crisis as Growth
“Disintegration” is framed as an opportunity, not as failure.
You develop your own “higher ideal” and plan how to get there.
Possible questions:
- What ideals do you feel within yourself, even if they seem difficult to achieve?
- What old beliefs would you like to leave behind?
- What would your life look like if you lived according to your own values?
Summary
This coaching is less a “repair program” than a journey through crises and changes toward a new self-image.
It supports you in recognizing and utilizing your uniqueness, not as a disorder, but as an individual resource for development.